I am proud of you for seeing the guys at your school for what they are: immature and misguided. They should act less like boys and be more like men. The question is this: what are you doing about it?
Some girls make the situation worse. Out of fear of being unliked, unpopular, or unloved (usually all three), girls will lower their standards: dress like slut, act like a slut, and date a guy who's a slut. All of this will destroy you dignity and encourage the guys to keep being boys. Some girls make the situation better. This is what I challenge you to do. Here are three things you can do to make your school better.
- Accept responsibility for making your life, your relationships, and your school a better place. This does not mean that everything will be perfect and people will applaud for you when you walk in the classroom. But if you don't believe you can make a difference, then you never will.
- Making gentlemen. He will be as much of a gentlemen as you expect. This is true for one guy you date and all the guys in the halls. Expect more, and you'll get more. This is a unique power of women, a secret that most guys don't want girls to know. Do not tolerate guys making sexual jokes or them talking about porn. You don't have to become an angry policewoman, but take a kind and firm stand.
- To date or not to date? Judging from your question, you're not interested in anyone. This is fine, you shouldn't lower your standards just to prove you can get a date. If you are confidently single, you'll empower other girls to not go out with guys "just because." If you find a good guy, be determined to make it a quality relationship. Others will notice that things are right.
Most of all, have hope! Your future husband could be reading this right now. Pray for him. Live in a way you want him to live. I've met over 100,000 teenagers all over the country. There are some cool guys out there that are worth waiting for.
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