Lesbian Party Kisses?

I am a freshman and it's been cool because we are getting invited to some senior parties. The boys are cute and they are totally nice. But all my friends, I am talking about girls, are giving each other kisses at the parties. The guys go crazy and give them more attention. They are always daring us to kiss each other or dance on each other. I don't know.

There are two issues here: the guys, and the girls. First, let's talk about the guys.

Guys:
The Reality: Most porn that boys watch is between two women, and they are just trying to see the real thing right in front of them, instead of on their computer. They are used to getting what they want when they want from women who have no feelings or souls or needs. When they ask you to do this, they are treating you like you have no soul, no feelings, and no needs. This has to stop.

What to do about the Guys: Talk to the boys when they are pressuring your friends. This is hard, especially because they are older and rowdy. Don't say something like, "Hey don't you know that's bad!" But, be brave sassy, "No, little boy, I am not your toy." Or tell them, "No, it's your turn. Why don't you two make out so you can turn on the girls?" They should get the point.

Girls:
The Reality: This is a bigger issue then a "little kiss" at a party. It's setting the standard that women are objects and are for entertainment, and will do whatever a guy asks. These girls will never get the respect. They'll be used up and dumped faster than you can say "Monica Lewinski." Plus, you are encouraging guys to make a habit of objectifying women. It's not harmless fun.

What to do with the Girls: Stay away from the guys who treat you like an object and give your attention to guys who respect you. Talk to your friends. Think about it: do you want to go to your daughter's dance recital and run into other moms you've French kissed? Do you want to look out and think, "I made out with Sarah's mommy, Kayla's mommy, Taylor's mommy"? Talk about it and make a decision to not do it. Stick to it.


-Matt