Dressed to Impress?

It's so judgmental to assume I am a easy because I dress sexy. I dress how I want. Just because I CAN dress hot and they can't, why should I stop?

If you dress like a whore, then people will think you are a whore. You can call me judgmental, but I am telling you the truth. Your character cannot defy how you dress. How you dress defines who you are. Why?

Girls and guys think differently. I once heard that, "Men fall in love with their eyes, women fall in love with their ears." Males are visual, just ask a teacher. A teacher can lecture forever, but if you want the males to learn, you need to stimulate them visually: charts, drawings, puzzles, etc. When you accept that you send a message with your clothes, consider who responds to your message.

The bait you use determines what kind of fish you catch. If you want a guy who just wants to take off your clothes, then save him time and don't put as much on. If you want a guy who'll appreciate you for more than just your naked body parts, then you've got to change how you dress. Put on more modest clothes and leave something to the imagination.

Don't mistake your ability to inspire lust with empowerment and love. There's something deeper going on that you need to think about. You can have half of the guys at your school falling over to get you, but that doesn't mean they'll love you. You are beautiful and you don't have to undress to prove that to anyone. God created you beautiful and He loves you. You are precious.

"They certainly would blush if they could guess the impression they make and the feelings they evoke in those who see them." Pope Pius XII, 1954

-Matt

No Sex, No Boyfriend. What's the deal?

My boyfriend told me that if I don't sleep with him, he'll find someone who loves him enough to try to make him happy. What do I do?

He's right: you should love someone enough to make them happy. That is exactly why he should guard your heart and purity, not pressure you to have sex. He doesn't understand what love is.

Love is selfless, not selfish. A relationship is like an empty box. Both people have to put in more than they take out. You can't just put in and so he can take out. The very person you expect to love you leaves you naked and used, both sexually and emotionally.

But let's say you do have sex with him. What happens next?

Statistically, couples break up less than 30 days after having sex. You can explain that statistic in many ways, but know that a guy loses respect for a girl who gives in to every whim. She starts to feel "easy." The adventure is over and he goes off to find another one.

Some guys will stay with a girl if she has sex with him. But think about the problem you are getting into. It's not enough that you gave your virginity to him, but you have to keep offering your body just to keep him. It's an endless nightmare.

You are so wonderful and worthy of being loved. God made you this way. You need to break off this relationship and explain to him why. He's not a bad guy, he just doesn't understand what love is. If you don't tell him, who will? It won't be the girl who gives in.