Husband Won't Wait

Let's get real: guys like to have sex. Why should I wait to have sex when I know my husband isn't waiting for me?

It sounds like you've had some bad relationships with guys. Whether they were just friends or boyfriends, they've convinced you that no guys will wait for their bride. I apologize for their behavior, because they are not real men. Real men know that their bride is worth waiting for. And real men know they are worth the wait too. Let's take a look at your question.

You are judging a person you haven't even met. Assuming that "no guy will wait" is as silly as me assuming my wife will be addicted to shopping. Just because some girls shop all the time does not mean all girls will do the same. I won't deny that males do like sex, but I also won't deny the thousands of men I have met that are waiting for marriage.

Don't sabotage your future marriage. What happens when you meet prince charming, and you have to explain to him that you had sex with every boyfriend because you figured he'd be screwing around. Oops, my bad. Or even worse, what happens when you miss the one because you are in bed with some other guy?

Remember, love is not a game. Don't assume that because he could be fooling around, that gives you permission to fool around. You are in a losing battle with someone who's not even playing your game. Chastity is a not what you "don't do," it's understanding that sexuality is a precious gift. It's not how many times you can give it away then take it back, or see how far you can unwrap it and not give it away.

Give love a chance. Live a life that proves that love is possible. Make decisions that will bring you closer to your husband and him closer to you. I promise you, it's worth the wait!


-Matt