The Age Thing

I am a senior guy at a very small school where there are not many girls my age. Recently I met a freshman girl that I seem to connect with. In the past I haven't looked twice at any girl more than 2 years younger because I didn't want to have to deal with the "age thing." She is just coming into high school and I am just on my way out. Is it really ok for a senior guy to chase a freshmen girl, or does that just show poor social skills on my part?

I went to high school with 200 other kids. I know how discouraging it can be when there's no one you want to date. I want to elaborate on a few things you said, then give my advice. It might surprise you.

You know what's up with the senior-guy-freshman-girl-thing. As a guy, you know that other senior guys usually chase freshman for sex and cheap relationships. It doesn't sound like that's your intention, but understand if you do date, that will become an issue and effect your relationship with her. Now let's talk about her.

Most girls dream about dating an older guy. It's part of the high school fairy tale. So know she'll be pretty willing to date if you if you make it an option. But should you?

Do spend time with her. But don't date, as in go out then make out then freak out. Let her know you think she's cool and would like to spend more time with her, but let her know it's not dating. It could be sitting next to her at the game, or getting coffee after school. She'll be happy to have your attention. She will admire you, and you can spend that time to make a positive impression on her that will last forever.

If you two do click, then maybe there's a relationship in the future, as you both get older. If you don't click, then you'll have saved you both from a lot of trouble. Soon you'll be in college and you can look back and know you did the right thing.


-Matt