I understand that chastity is a safe way to live. But, doesn't chastity rob the spontaneity and romance of the moment?
Please, make the most of each moment, each day. But know that you face the consequences of your decisions. "Living for the moment" effects what happens the next moment, the moment after, etc. Practically, when you spontaneously get naked and have sex, you have do deal with the consequences: temporary pleasure, the fear of pregnancy or an STD, your parents finding out, carrying the baggage to the next relationship, etc. Spontaneity is not the absence of thinking.
The romance? Don't confuse "romance" for getting aroused then physical in pretty places. A girl can be seduced with what seems like romance. Every guy knows flowers make a girl happy. But, in order for there to be real romance, there must be real love. Real love is selfless and patient. Only then will the crackling fire and homemade meal have meaning.
Romance doesn't require getting physical. The most adventurous and creative couples know this. A few weeks ago, I was mad at my girlfriend because she wouldn't relax and kiss me. She had a long, hard day. I realized I was being selfish, so I reluctantly did what Jesus did-I washed her feet. I took all my energy and scrubbed her toes, then rubbed her arches and heals. By the time I was done, I had a change of heart. I kissed her toes and spent the rest of the night making the evening perfect for her. It was so romantic, and so much better than just getting my kiss fix.
-Matt
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